måndag 14 september 2009

Never been in love!

I think its something wrong whit me, I never fall in love! Im 17 years old and I have had several boyfriends. At the beginning I think im in love but then when I know that I have them trapt I always lose my interest.

My girlfriends always talk about how in love they are whit their boyfriends and say stoff like, I cant stop smiling when I look at him ore, it feels like im walking on clouds. I really don’t get it. I also have friends that are miserable in love. They always tell me how happy I shod be to skip all of the crap that they haft to stand. But actually im jealous! At least they feel something!

The longest relationship I’ve ever had last six months. I never walked around on clouds ore whit a silly smile like my friends but I cared fore him and felt happy whit the situation. But after six month tings started to be a bit more serious and he started to make demands on me. Like trying to stop me from go out whit my friends and stoff. So the relationship ended quick, whit out any need to thinking twice I brook up whit him, and have never regret it.

Are it as god love gets fore me?
Am I callous? Will I ever be able to truly love someone (except my mother)?

söndag 13 september 2009

I’m fat...

...but everybody says I’m really skinny, but they’re wrong. I’m really ugly to, everybody is cuter than me. I just dress myself in big clothes so they wont se how big I am, I’m not wearing makeup, it doesn’t matter anyway because I’m ugly if I wear makeup too. People are staring really much if I wear makeup. I just wished that I could be beautiful like my friends. Beautiful bodies like my friends, beautiful hair, beautiful eyes, I wish I could change my body to the fullest. My friends has everything, and I have nothing. Except my perfect friends.

All of my friends have or had a boyfriend, bur a boy have never ever just looked at me, and if a boy have looked I’m sure it’s beacuse I’m so ugly.

I’m afraid of the food beacuse if I eat something I’ll become fat and then I’ll be even more uglier than my friends. When I look in the mirror my big body doesn’t fit in the mirror. I’m so ashamed of my body and of my self that I don’t wanna go out annymore. My best friend at home is the razor, but the razor leave scares in the skin, and people think I’m mad.

Sometimes I think I’m not right for this world.

Hi everyone!

I have a problem. It`s my mother, she is driving me totally crazy! When I say that you probably think I am like all teenagers and just are normally irritated on my parents. But this is different I really cant stand her. Actually I hate her, and she hates me to. She tells me all the time how stupid and meaningless I am. She often even tells me that she hates me. We also fight every day, about almost everything.

She expects me to do everything at home. Like cook dinner, clean all clothes even clean the whole house. She treats me like I`m her slave, not her daughter.

And the worst is that I have to do all this things. Because she threats to throw me out of the house if don`t do it. If she did that I would have no place to go. I only have my mother. I donÕt have anywhere else I can live. And I am just 15 years old so it is not possible for me to get an own apartment.

Are there anyone else who had similar problems? Because I really need some advice. I donÕt know how much longer I can stand this. She really brakes me apart. I hate that she force me to do everything she wants me to. But worst of all is to know that my own mother hates me.

So please, help me?

fredag 11 september 2009

Hello.

I have a problem. A year ago my boyfriend raped me. It is difficult for me to admit to myself. In fact, it took one year. I woke up in the middle of the night by my boyfriend tried to have sex with me. I was tired and wanted to sleep. I said so, without reaction. I love him, so I didn’t want ta make a scen and shouting something, but I said 'no, I do not want any more tonight. It did not help, so I pushed him from me. When he was just even more excited. I was not strong enough to remove him. Afterwards, I started crying and felt humiliated because he is not listening. But I would not recognize me or him that he had just raped me so I took everything in me by saying "I told him I did not want to but you did not hear." He did not protest against my obvious lie, but we continued to be jointly et semester. If I had recognized that happened was I had of course had to end, because I can not have a guy who rapes. Now it has been one year and I have stopped protecting him. Now I can finally realize what it actually was happening. Is there anything I can do about it so far for? There's no evidence and it would never go so far as to court even. Is there anything that excuses his behavior. And how can I do to be able to leave this behind?

He will ruin our friendship...

Last winter one of my best friends started to date one of my closer guy friends. I where very happy that they’ve found each other and that the three of us could hang out. After a six months long relationship they broke up, and I where stuck in the middle when they fought. I understood both sides and didn’t want to stop being friends with neither one of them. But now my girl friend has found another guy that she is in a relationship with and obviously moved on. Her ex-boyfriend, also my close guy friend, where very sad and talked a lot about his feelings with me. We became even closer friends during the summer. But now he has started to hit on me! Calling me, sending me ‘cute’ textmessages. I really just want us to only be friends, and stay that way, but he shows very clear that he wants us to be a whole lot more.

I don’t want to be mean against him and ruin our friendship but I can’t go on like this.

Please help me, is there anything I can do to make it all back to normal again?

I have this probem with my dad

I have this problem with my dad. To fully understand you need to hear it from the beginning. I love my dad unconditionally, always did, but I'm having a hard time getting through to him. A couple of years ago he had a stroke. He litterally couldn't speak, hardly at all, for like three weeks. My dad has never been much of a talkative person, but now it was like I met him for the first time and had to get to know him all over again. His mind was perfectly fine and he knew exactly what to say, but when he tried to talk the words just wouldn't come out right. He would sound annoyed and angry even though he wasn't. He knew this, but because of it he couldn't explain what he really meant without sounding wrong. All this crashed down my mum and us. Now it has been 4-5 years since the stroke. It's way better now, but sometimes it still feels like he's a complete stranger to me. My mum and dad don't fight a lot and I know they love eachother but it also feels like some things get left unsaid. A while ago I probably had the most honest and open conversation with him. It was after dinner, we argued and the whole thing ended with dad leaving the table 'cause he couldn't say the things he wanted to say. It's not like he's handicapped or anything, but I hope you know what I mean. It's hard to explain if you're not there. Anyway, when I was just about to go to bed dad came down and said he wanted to talk. He was talking very slow and quiet, I could tell he wanted this to come out right without sounding wrong. He told me that me, my sisters and mum were the best thing that ever happened to him, that he was so scared of losing us. At the day of his stroke he was so damn scared. He also said that he never meant to hurt us, it was just his way of dealing with it without thinking first. He started crying and told me he would do whatever he could to make us a happy family again.
What can I do? I have no idea what to say to him. It's better now than before, but I know he still struggles.
Help me, please!

I am only me!

there!

Sorry to bother you but I got two problems and I would appreciate your help.

1. Some of my friends have a tendency to judge people they don’t know because of their looks, the people they hang out with, the sports they like to watch, the activities they like to perform, their way to walk or talk.

I love my friends but I don’t like what they are doing, I think that every person has the same value no matter what! I want to give each individual a chance to show me who they really are, and after an everyday conversation I might have gotten the information and felt the vibes that I need, to say if I like or dislike the person. For some reason I can’t live up to this. I can’t ignore and look away from what other people say and I can’t help getting affected by them and create my own preconceptions.

What should I do to avoid the peer pressure?

2. Many people judge me and put me in to a certain category, and the funny thing is that I’m probably stuck into as many different categories as the number of people who has judged me. Isn’t that a pretty good example on how well these people know me? I am tired of being called a drama queen, a nerd, a whore, a bitch, a no-namer and all the other things I apparently am. Why can´t I erase all these headlines and become just me? Isn’t that enough?

I know that these two problems have an obvious connection; without the first issue the second one wouldn’t exist. But is it possible to stop this judging and give everyone a chance, or would that make the current social breakdown fall apart?

I really want to find a solution, but before we solve this big global problem, how do I rewind and restart? How do I make the picture right? How do I make it a portrait of me?

torsdag 10 september 2009

Problems...

I recently started high school and it feels like I don’t fit in with the rest of the class. I mean, I’m fat, ugly and have no self-confidence. All the girls are skinny, like they never eat, beautiful and love themselves. Everybody talks to each other and just turn their backs on me. The thing is, that I picked this field of study because I want to work with children and would to stay in the class. I am very shy so I’m not the one to start a conversation. How do you guys think I should do, to make them start talking to me?

My other problem has to do with my best friend at my old school. She and I always used to do everything together, talked for hours and had so much fun. But now when she also in a new class, she chose a different school, we hardly never talk. She ignores my calls and text messages, but when she finally answers me, she is not the same person that she used to be. When I ask her if we can meet and just hang out, she says that she has homework to do or other plans. I don’t know what is wrong! Do you think she is tired of me or something? If that is the case, I really don’t know what to do. She is the only one I can talk to about stuff. As I’m so shy, I have a problem to open up in front of my other friends.

I really hope that I get some good answers. Thank you in advance!

Hello everyone,

My problem is that i change my personality depends the person I am with. Just so they will like me! I’t started about three year ago. And now i can’t change back to be “the real” me.

Here’s some exampel, when Im with one friend and she say that she loves purple, I also say that o love purple and the next time we meet I have a purple t-shirt on me. Merley so she will say:

“What a pretty purple t-shirt, purple is my favorite color!.”

And if my friend say’s that se love r’n’b music I will buy a CD with r’n’b music so she will say that she loves it and want to lisen to it with me. And when my friends ask me about something I always say “but what do you think about it?” and when she have answer and I say the same thing.

It’s hard for me to remember all the thing’s I been telling them that i like when I actully don’t. But I’m afraid that if I stop with this and become myself I will lose all of my friends. But I don’t want to, I whant that they will know the real me.

I don’t know why I started whit this. I think it was becuse I didn’t have many friends so I started to be fake and say that I like the same things that my new friends like. I have success cause I have many friends, but no one of them know me personal.

It’s hard for me to change when i met some friend and even more when i meet many friends! But now I can’t cange back to “me”, I don’t know how I are anymore, i feel so fake!

Pleas help me, and give me some advice what I shall do. Is it worth to lose my frinends and start over? Or will I say that I’am fake? Help me!

onsdag 9 september 2009

Friends or not?

I have a problem with one of my friends. Or she is not my friend anymore, but she use to be..

I have know her since we were like 3 years old. Up to 8th grade we hate each other. Hate is maybe a strong word, but we doesn’t like each other that’s for sure.

But when we start 8th grade everything changes. It was like we both under the summer understood that we should be a very great “couple”, because we realise that the only reason that we fight was that we both want the same things.

So the last two years in junior high school we were inseparable. If you saw me you would be sure that she was less than ten meters back. We share the same humour, the same music taste and so on. I’m not sure that some of our friends even saw us as two people, when they say our names they kind of be like one word. She was my BFF, best friends forever..

But then it happened. I realised that all our friendship was about was having fun. We never talk about serious problems or other serious stuff, that I think is some of the reasons friends should be there for. And she was very jealous, when I was with somebody without her she’s been very angry and I feel bad because I disappoint her. Everything has to be in her way, she decide what I should like or not.

So I start to ask my self what do I get out of our friendship? When I thought about it I realised that I spend all my time at her. Well we had a lot of fun, but nothing more, and for that I adventure all my other friends that really care about me. So I “split up” from her and I haven’t seen or heard from her for over two weeks.

But now to my problem. For five days ago she send me a sms and ask if we could start seeing each other again. I answered that I would think about it.

I don’t know what to do, because I’m afraid that we go back to were we was before and that isn’t what I want for sure. I love spending time with her but she controls me a make me to a different person and not in a good way. So what would you do? Just ignore her and start a new life without her or tell her what I feel about our friendship and try to work it out?

Please give me some advice!

Okey, my problem is about my boyfriend and me.
I and my boyfriend are together
again!! We have been together along time, but we have had many breaks up. I have break up all the time apart from one time, when the reason was that, I was to like his sister.. I don’t really know what he meaning. But I don’t know what I’m going to do. I mean, we almost fight about everything. It is unusual that we not fight.
He is so nice when we not are together and says a lot of nice things to me. But direct when he got me back, he be so mean and so irritated. It is impossible to be with him then..
I don’t know what to do. And the worst is that I can’t let him go, I don’t want him to disappear from my life. I can’t live whiteout him!!! It doesn’t work. Always when I leave him I always take him back a few days later.
I know that the sea is full of fishes! But I really love him, but we always fight, and if it not is god at the start, it’s not going to be better later.
So please help me!! I don’t know what to do. I can’t get over him. I always am thinking on him. We have tried to only be friends, but it doesn’t work.
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This may seem a little bit complicated, but it’s not that hard actually.

One year ago my boyfriend cheated on me with another girl on a party, but he didn’t tell me, he’s best friend told me. Anyway, I met another boy on the Internet, and I just forgot all about my ex. I was very depressed cause lots of things had happened on very short time. But this guy made me feel like myself again. We talked for hours on one day, and every night we stayed up until five on the morning. The day before I went to USA he told me he loved me. I was so happy, and all I could think of was him. The months passed by, and suddenly he’s Friends started to tell me things like “he doesn’t care about you”. I didn’t know Who to trust anymore. I asked him about it, and we had our first argue. (About that I didn’t trust him.) But after a while everything got back to “the usual”. In May I heard from a girl that they were dating. (She added me on msn, I didn’t know anything about it cause he had told me he loved me the same day as she wrote to me.) I was staring at the computer and didn’t know what to say or what to do. Suddenly she asked me “Do you think he take me seriously?” I told her the troth and wrote back “Yes, I think he does…” Some days later he wrote to me on msn, he was very angry and told me that they weren’t together, and that it was my fault that she had ditched him. I couldn’t believe what he wrote. I wrote back all I’d told her, but he wouldn’t believe me. We argued, again, and after some weeks we were friends again, and told each other “I love you” but than I did a really bad thing… On Sweden rock festival I camped whit two of he’s Friends, and I get along great with them. But one of them I liked a little bit more than as just a friend. But he had a girlfriend so I gave it up. The guy I’d known for almost a year got angry cause I got along with his friends so good. Because of that I and the boy I camped with broke the contact with each other, but it didn’t help my “relationship” with “Gustav”. (I don’t use he’s real name.) It was just getting worse. He didn’t answer any of my e-mails, phone calls or my texts on msn/picture diary. I got tired of it, and the boy from Sweden rock and I started to talk again. No he was single he told me and he wondered if it was ok if he came down to visit me. Ok I thought, we are good friends. A month ago now he came down to me, hand we became girlfriend and boyfriend. He stayed at my place for a few days, than I went home with him. (He lives 18 mil from me…) I slept over with my friend Emelie for three days, and I got a text messenger from the guy with the words “I’m sorry, this isn’t working out, you live too far away from me, and I’m not ready for a new relationship yet. I got sad, he had known for almost a year where I live. We broke the contact, again, cause I couldn’t stand just being he’s Friend. Two days after I got the messenger I heard that he had a new girlfriend. I didn’t know what to do, so I stayed inside my room for a week, I didn’t talk to anyone. The only one I would talk to wouldn’t speak to me. Gustav. I still didn’t answer my texts, calls or anything. He wasn’t just a little “crush”, he was also my best friend, and I really loved him. One day I wrote angry to him and asked why he wouldn’t speak to me, and he actually answered. “I’m sick of you. My friends? How could you? You are so out of my life now girl!” I got angry and sad and wrote down everything that had happened, but he wouldn’t believe me, so he said “So this is all my fault now? But of course, it always is. This ship has sailed, and it won’t come back, ever.” And then he stopped answering me. I really don’t know what to do cause it can’t get him out of my minds, and it’s really annoying. I know it’s my fault as much as it’s he’s, but I forgave him for the things that happened with the girl in May and lots of other things I haven’t wrote down. I’m so sick and tired of always having him in my minds, I really just want to forget him and all he’s words. What should I do? Please someone come up with an answer cause I really can’t stand this anymore. I miss him!

Hi everybody!

My problem is not the same as someone others is. The problem is my hair. And that’s not the one of the usual problem. I know.
When I was a child I had very short hair and I was fair-haired. But when I was at ten to eleven my hair started to became darker and darker. So I started to color my hair. I was often blond and I like it, but when I was about I colored my hair dark brown and so it ended on till that I was about 13,5. My mum has always had some such of control over my hair, and me so she had colored my hair always. But now I have wanted to color my hair in to other colors like red, dark-dark brown or black. I have also fantasized to fix it pink or blue. But for the most pink. But this I just fantasy. I know that you need to be brave to do it. So I don’t think that I’m going to color my hair pink or blue. But then come the big question: am I going to tell my mum or/and the rest of my family that I want to color my hair let’s say platinum blond or deep brown. Or should I just buy some package with that color I want, and let a near friend that I trust at and let her do it?

What should I do?? Answer me somebody!! Or at least give me some advice.

Different thoughts...

I have a problem with my family…It feels like I am the absolutely only one in my family how thinks like I do! The other five persons are completely different compared to me and I just hate it! Whatever I do or say, it feels like they think I´m crazy. I am the oldest one after my parents in my family but my younger sisters and brothers seems to be sooooo smart and wise. I am more like the confused and careless family member. At dinner, when we sit in the kitchen, eating together, they always talk about important news and such as stuff but I just feel “what”? Why do my younger sister likes world-wide-news when I don’t? Once I told my mum that I feel different but she just answered that they loves my even if, and I love they to. I would just like to be awable to understand them. I don’t like to feel “outside” and I wonder WHY I´am so different, why I don’t share their lifestyle and hobbies. I hope some of you out there can give me some advise or atleast agree with me and say that you feel the same? Pleace, pleace, tell me that you understand. If you don’t, I might be adopted or something like that!

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fredag 4 september 2009

A very useful link

This is a really nice dictionary where you just print the word you would like to translate and then press enter. You can even listen to the pronunciation!

http://www.norstedtsord.se/

onsdag 2 september 2009

Welcome!

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